I got married at 18 & and my husband was 26 I hate telling people that I am married not because I was ashamed but I don't want I get these looks that imply, “But you’re so young, what do you know about marriage? people find it unbelievable that such a young girl is married, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you! I was shocked and mad at my parents and then I prepared myself for the responsibilities for life Of course, marriage wasn’t only about the things I gained (which are great experiences) but about the things I lost, which I am mature enough to acknowledge and deal with. I always get told “But, you haven’t experienced life! You haven’t dated enough! You need to have a taste of independence! Your social life!” And you know what, they’re all right. In some way, I haven’t experienced life but on the other hand, my husband was mature enough to deal with circumstances take my responsibility he take care of me, and make me feel reliable. Getting married hasn’t been easy (everyone’s experience is different). I had to grow into myself, gain confidence in my own skin and be able to admit my wrongs and fix things. I didn’t have that comfy pillow called mom and dad to fall back on when I messed up (not saying they weren’t around, but it’s different, ya know). I know I’m not the only one that has married young and I’m almost sure you (if you’re married) have been nodding at some parts thinking back to aunts, uncles, parents friends, or anyone who offered their indirect or very direct criticisms. It’s just unfair. So this is to all those people that raise their eyebrow at a young married person. Be happy for us, don’t make us feel weird about it, and please stop assuming we aren’t mature enough to be in a lifetime commitment!
Efforts are always better than promises
I don’t know how to cook, how to clean, how to take responsibility for my home chores I behaved childishly but my husband supported me very well he was always around me and hold me like a child understand my anger he gave me his love so that I can overcome my insecurities. I put my hand on his chest to feel the heartbeats that are pouring from love soon I started to feel comfortable with him he looked into my eyes the eye contact he was probably trying to say something but I guess words are not enough to explain his feelings for me. Now I have spent more than 5 years with him (happily) I am very lucky to have a partner like him he is humble kind and of course, I give my best to make this marriage work
so if you want to be happy with your spouse you just have to remind these things
- Be kind to your partner
- Always respect his/her privacies
- keep your word no matter how insignificant it may seem to you
- Marriage is just like companionship you get what you give
- No matter you are getting married at 18 or 28 or 38 express yourself truly who you are
- Don't scold him/her in front of the public
- No matter how happy your marriage is you are bound to encounter problems
- The root of many problems is a lack of trust so trust your partner make them understand how important they are
- Commitment is more than just wanting to stay together for a long time being married means you are wholeheartedly making the relationship last
- Casting away any doubts that this is just a temporary experiment
At times despite your best effort marriage can be challenging to navigate but with commitment love respect and trust you and your partner can make it work even though the tough time and if it fails, don't hesitate to seek help when needed.
SEñORITA ~
